Conquerors are kings; the beaten are bandits

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If you beat spice it will smell the sweeter If you beat spice it will smell the sweeter
A bride received into the home is like a horse that you have just bought; you break her in by constantly mounting her and continually beating her A bride received into the home is like a horse that you have just bought; you break her in by constantly mounting her and continually beating her

Chinese sayings and proverbs